Put your emotions aside….Now use your mind

Interestingly enough, I am going through my lap top searching through all my files and I come across this questionnaire. It has been a few years since I actually saw this questionnaire, how did I possibly forget about it? This is helpful on many levels for each individual to know what it is they are truly looking for in a partner. Also if you have a partner it is pretty helpful to discuss the new changes that have undoubtedly occurred within your personality in the last few years. As I had mentioned earlier on my blog, people grow into different people and a constant update between a couple is necessary to maintain their ability to go on together peacefully.

Most importantly this questionnaire gives you a look into who you really are and what it is you want to live with and what you have discarded from your daily personality or priorities list. Now you know you really like this person, and your heart skips a beat every time you see them or hear the phone ring. You have no doubt that you get butterflies just thinking about Him/ Her, so lets put all the emotions aside and really take a clear mental look at what is really going on and how compatible you are with your sweetheart. If you are deciding to marry this person, then take a step back, assess the situation logically cause these are all the things you will have to live with for the rest of your life; each others personality and way of life.

Compatibility Questions for the singles

1-     Do we share a common life purpose? (It is important that you know what your personal life purpose is to identify if you both have the same one or not.)

2-     Do I feel safe to express my feelings and thoughts with this person? ( being emotional safe with this person, that means there is trust and good communication and person wont be punished for expressing how they feel)

3-     Is He/She a refined sensitive person?

4-     Does HE/She work on personal growth on a regular basis?

5-     What does He/She do with their time?

6-     Is this person materialistic? ( usually a materialistic person will put comfort for themselves first before doing the right thing)

7-     Do we have similar priorities in life?

8-     How does He/She react to spending money on you? (very important for the man in this situation to make the female feel taken care of financially. Stinginess is the toughest thing to handle once you have married someone that won’t provide for the house but will only spend on himself)

9-     How important is affection to you?

10- What do you see yourself doing in five years from now? (do you know what He/ She sees themselves doing in five years from now?)

11- Do you enjoy the same types of outings?( once you decide to marry this person, if your types of outings differ then you will be living separate lives and loose all ability to do anything together)

12- Do you share similar religious beliefs?

13- Do you both want children?

14- How respected does He/ She make you feel?

15- Do you share the same type of humor?

16- What are His/ Her views on the male/ female roles in a relationship?

17- How does He/ She talk about His/ Her family?

18- Do you know if this person will stand up for you when needed or will others be a priority to please over you?

19- Is your welfare important to Him/ Her? (does this person bring you down or lift you up. When you are in a situation are they there for you or only thinking of themselves in that situation?)

20- Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we are married? ( you can probably expect someone to change after marriage…to the worst)

If you can’t accept this person fully the way they are …. Then you are not ready to marry them

If you have any more questions that you think i need to add to my list, i would be delighted to hear them.

About Rana Zaben
I help people feel their best and create a solid second income to enjoy the best things in life.

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