When does it become unacceptable?

Anger boils over inside of me as Jack asked “Well did he hit you?”

“No” Emily says, surprised that he would even ask that question. Was all what she was saying not enough to walk out on her current relationship? My face was starting to hurt from the frown that had over taken my face for the past half hour, listening to Emily re-tell her story with her husband to Jack as tears rolled down her face. I couldn’t understand why Jack was even asking if her husband was hitting her? What relevance did that have to do with the pain Emily has been suffering for years with this man?

I asked him point blank “What relevance does this have? Is it not enough that He is constantly swearing at her, slamming doors all over the house, being completely impolite to any member of her family or any of her friends that enter her house, he doesn’t give her money to be able to support the house hold requirements and her baby girls requirements yet spends a ton on his friends and his entertainment, he is out partying every single night without her, he doesn’t allow her to go to bars or clubs at night without him even though he does constantly, he has caused his little girl to wake up screaming at night fearing that her father would kill her mother, he sits and does nothing in the house except talk on the phone to his buddies laughing or flipping through tv channels as she keeps running around the house fixing things, he uses his kids for his social outings to be accepted in society, he doesn’t allow her to work so she doesn’t attract the attention of the opposite sex” I take a deep breath in, calm myself down and asked calmly “So answer this Jack, what does it matter, to you, if he hits her or not?” Jack looked at me surprised as though I was asking him a question about giving birth and how he felt during it. I repeated my question to him more aggressively and he finally responded saying “Well since he does not hit her, then they can work things out. hitting her would be unacceptable in every way possible.”

Shocked out of my wits I didn’t know how to answer him back, all that rummaged through my mind was the fact that if a woman ever dared do all that to her husband she would be banished by everyone including her family, they would tell her that it is up to her to make this marriage work. Any man who went to complain about the same things would have given the green light for every human being (male or female) to reprimand the woman until she breaks down in humiliation for her actions. Yet when a woman complains about being mistreated on a daily basis the world tends to stand by his side and ask the woman to accept it as long as she is not being physically abused. She is supposed to take in his infidelity, his rudeness, his verbal condemning ways, his absence physically and financially and only be able to make a valid stand if he went out of his way and hit her.

Strange how this type of injustice is not accepted upon animals and yet upon women it is considered bad, yet not unjust. A woman is put in a position today to accept all that is done to her by a man because he has not physically abused her YET. A woman is expected to be the brains in the family, the glue that holds everything together regardless of what her mental state has become because of all the degrading ways she has been treated.  A woman has to turn a blind eye to her husband having affairs hoping that he will one day come to his senses, but when that day never comes she has to confront him and in return the society gives the excuse of him being a “Man” and men need more than one woman. She is then asked yet again to accept it and be a better wife to her husband cause she was probably the reason he went to another woman for sex. If a woman cheats on her husband she is thrown to the gutters, her kids are taken away from her, her marriage is over, her is shunned out from society with not a single word mentioned that it could have possibly been the husbands fault.

What really gets to me is this, after my talk with Emily and Jack, I found Emily agreeing with Jack, seeing his point of view, assessing the situation and wronging herself the whole time. She provoked his anger, she allowed him to neglect her and stop spending money on her and the family, it was her fault she was too busy taking care of the house and her child and her new pregnancy, of course he would go mad and naturally she thanked God that he never hit her “He is a good man that he never hit me. I would have left for sure.”

And in that ended the whole pain she had been suffering for years with her husband. I later on found out that all her girlfriends gave her a similar advice and sad as it was, women accept this upon themselves. Women will tell women to stick around in a horrible relationship, with a cheating man, with a stingy guy, with a man who has temper management issues and tell the woman it is all in her hands to make this work.

When have we ever become the weaker sex? We are able to give birth, take care of a house, go to work, socialize with the world and sleep for a maximum of six hours a night and still have the ability to do everything and more than any man could even dream of. What happened to reprimanding a man for his misconduct and behavior, who said it was ok? Who said that we were born, as women, to live this way? How come every man gets away with murder and women can’t get away with an extra hour of sleep if needed?

Women know how to build fear in other women, making them accept the unacceptable. Telling them horror stories of what life would look like if she did leave her husband “You will not be able to support yourself, you have not worked for years.” Or “What about the kids? They need a father figure” or “Live with it till your kids are old enough then leave”or “ Who will every marry a woman with children? It is too much baggage. So it is best to stay with the man who helped in procreating them.”

What women don’t understand is this “If women stood up and supported one another and did not accept to be treated in such a disturbing disregard to their humanity then men will have no choice but to stop.” As long as the world accommodates such actions and only the visual physical abuse is the allowed reason to leave a man, women will always be where they are today, and they will keep procreating more men that abuse their women, cause women don’t know how to stand up for their human rights.

If every woman keeps accepting this as a way of life, and if women will always advise women to be the abused member of the family then things will never change and women will always be spat on. Her kids will also treat her with disrespect the way their father had, and they will repeat the same pattern onto their wives in the future and every woman will again tell that woman in pain “It is ok, it is all in your hands, you’re the smarter one. Men are like children let him do his thing, and you stay the good wife, he will come around. As long as he didn’t hit you then you can fix it.”

Emilie’s story is one of the many stories I have came across in all these years of watching and listening to couples. With such sadness I have to say that I might have met one in every 30 marriages where there is a balanced relationship between man and woman. What women don’t understand is this: they are telling their daughters that it is ok to be treated this way and they are telling their sons it is ok to treat a woman this way. They think they are making life better for their children when in reality they are allowing the same patterns to continue to evolve and have no regard to how their daughters will be treated in the future or how their sons will treat women.

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Song-The day before you came

A few months ago a dear friend and i spent one evening sharing our passion for music with one another, as we exchanged songs. One song in particular has stuck to me and struck me as a surprise that i had never heard in all those years. A song for ABBA that i had no idea existed. Now three months later, for some strange odd reason i have an obsession with it and i keep playing it on repeat in my car ride to and from work.

The most impressive part are the words, just to think that someone could write a love song that starts from “The day before you came” is incredible. Enjoy the lyrics, enjoy the video…ABBA always seem to know how to make their music work for an eternity of generations.

The Day Before You Came Lyrics

I must have left my house at eight, because I always do
My train, I’m certain, left the station just when it was due
I must have read the morning paper going into town
And having gotten through the editorial, no doubt I must have frowned
I must have made my desk around a quarter after nine
With letters to be read, and heaps of papers waiting to be signed
I must have gone to lunch at half past twelve or so
The usual place, the usual bunch
And still on top of this I’m pretty sure it must have rained
The day before you came

I must have lit my seventh cigarette at half past two
And at the time I never even noticed I was blue

I must have kept on dragging through the business of the day
Without really knowing anything, I hid a part of me away

At five I must have left, there’s no exception to the rule
A matter of routine, I’ve done it ever since I finished school

The train back home again
Undoubtedly I must have read the evening paper then
Oh yes, I’m sure my life was well within its usual frame
The day before you came

I must have opened my front door at eight o’clock or so
And stopped along the way to buy some Chinese food to go

I’m sure I had my dinner watching something on TV
There’s not, I think, a single episode of Dallas that I didn’t see

I must have gone to bed around a quarter after ten
I need a lot of sleep, and so I like to be in bed by then

I must have read a while
The latest one by Marilyn French or something in that style
It’s funny, but I had no sense of living without aim
The day before you came

And turning out the light I must have yawned and cuddled up for yet another night
And rattling on the roof I must have heard the sound of rain
The day before you came


Music- Oceana Cry Cry

I have a friend whom supplies me with an abundance of wonderful songs who lives in Athens. Whenever i go to visit her or she comes to visit me, there always seems to be an exchange of songs. One of the songs she gave me was this one, which i repeated for a good 3 weeks along with a few other songs.

I think i got a bit obsessed with this song cause a part of it i could easily relate to. There was a few lines in the lyrics that fed my sadness which caused me to keep repeating the song. The music is very simple which is evident within the simplicity of the words.

Enjoy 🙂

Click it if you want it: Oceana Cry Cry

When she was a young girl
She used to play with me
I was her best friend
We were inseparately
We loved to ride our bikes
Playin’ hide and seek
Sneaking all the night
Dancing in the street
I look back at the time
Now i realise
She loved to play with fire
I should have seen it in her eyes
I should have seen it in her eyes
Deep inside, you cry cry cry
Don’t let your hopes,die die die
Deep inside, you cry cry cry
Don’t let your hopes,die die die

She fell in love for the first time
He was older than her
Then he made her do things
First she wouldn’t tell
She left everything behind
Couldn’t find a place
Running through the night
Loosing all her faith
She throws away the pain
Turning off her lights
But still she makes it seem like everything’s alright
Like everything’s alright
Deep inside, you cry cry cry
Don’t let your hopes,die die die
Deep inside, you cry cry cry
Don’t let your hopes,die die dïe…

Music-Parachute

Liked this song and i liked the dancing in the video clip especially the very last minute of the dance scene. It is a hopeful love song.



Click it if you want it:Parachute

I don’t tell anyone about the way you hold my hand
I don’t tell anyone about the things that we have planned
I won’t tell anybody
Won’t tell anybody
They want to push me down
They want to see you fall (Down)

Won’t tell anybody how you turn my world around
I won’t tell anyone how your voice is my favourite sound
I won’t tell anybody
Won’t tell anybody
They want to see us fall
They want to see us fall

I don’t need a parachute
Baby, if I’ve got you
Baby, if I’ve got you
I don’t need a parachute
You’re gonna catch me
You’re gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down

I don’t need a parachute
Baby, if I’ve got you
Baby, if I’ve got you
I don’t need a parachute
You’re gonna catch me
You’re gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down

Don’t believe the things you tell yourself so late night and
You are your own worst enemy
You’ll never win the fight
Just hold on to me
I’ll hold on to you
It’s you and me up against the world
It’s you and me….(Love)

I don’t need a parachute
Baby, if I’ve got you
Baby, if I’ve got you
I don’t need a parachute
You’re gonna catch me
You’re gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down

I don’t need a parachute
Baby, if I’ve got you
Baby, if I’ve got you
I don’t need a parachute
You’re gonna catch me
You’re gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down

I won’t fall out of love
I won’t fall out of,
I won’t fall out of love
I won’t fall out of,
I won’t fall out of love
I won’t fall out of,
I won’t fall out of love
I’ll fall into you

I won’t fall out of love
I won’t fall out of,
I won’t fall out of love
I won’t fall out of,
I won’t fall out of love
I won’t fall out of,
I won’t fall out of love
I’ll fall into you

I don’t need a parachute
Baby, if I’ve got you
Baby, if I’ve got you
I don’t need a parachute
You’re gonna catch me
You’re gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down

I don’t need a parachute
Baby, if I’ve got you
Baby, if I’ve got you
I don’t need a parachute
You’re gonna catch me
You’re gonna catch if I fall
Down, down, down

Music-Did it again

Now this is one hell of a sexy video…the dancing is immaculate and Shakira really knows how to keep her dancing moves fresh…the guy is amazing also, i just wish he looked a little bit older :p
But the words are very true in their nature, we all go throught the same mistakes over and over again without thinking twice about it; just running after the thrill and then getting hurt all over again.

Click it if you want it: Did It Again (2-Track)

First floor, room 16
Smells like danger, even better
Set your goals, bless our souls
I’m in trouble but it feels like heaven, hey

You were like one of those guys
The kind with a wandering eye
But I said, hey, what the hell
Once in my life I’ll take a ride on the wild side

You were so full of yourself
But damn, were you cute as well
You liked my legs, I liked your moves
Anyone could tell, not a heart could deny that

Did it again, love, I got it all wrong
But it felt so right, I can’t believe it
And all the mistakes that went on for too long
Wish there was a way I could delete it

Second night in a row
Back in trouble, I don’t get it
Gotta keep it down, ’cause it’ll all be cold
We ignore it, it’s getting better, hey

When it comes to men, it’s known
That I end up choosing wrong
‘Cause I always trip and fall
The same old rock and repeat and go back

How blind a girl can be
To miss you hiding your ring
Thought about everything
I’m so naive imagining all that

Did it again, love, I got it all wrong
But it felt so right, I can’t believe it
And all the mistakes that went on for too long
Wish there was a way I could delete it

It may seem to you that I am in a place
Where I’m losing the direction of my life
But I’m sure that this is nothing but a phase
Right back at ya ’cause I’ll survive

It may seem to you that I am in a place
Where I’m losing the direction of my life
But I’m sure that this is nothing but a phase
Right back at ya ’cause I’ll survive

Now see, I can put you where you want to be
Believe that
See, now I can put you where you need to be
You can believe that

Whenever, wherever then, if you let me don’t try to begin
If you considerin’ about stoppin’ this flow, you need a friend
So break me off a piece of that, so sweet, so bad, the kitty cat
In the ‘cuzzi in rome, remember that? I need you soon, I’ll be your groom

This feelin’, this vibe, this night in June
I remember you said your hips don’t lie, love it when they move
I will only bring good vibes in your life, your love consumes
All day, every day I dream of being with only you, and them hips

Did it again, love, I got it all wrong
But it felt so right, I can’t believe it
And all the mistakes that went on for too long
Wish there was a way I could delete it
Did it again, love, I got it all wrong

Music-Univited Freemasons

This is an intreguing song, for a really long time i was unaware of what certain words were and sang them according to my understanding of it. When i would research the lyrics i would think that the words were incorrect, that everyone else was having the same problem  i was with them, until i actually looked up the words in the dictionary to be able to see why every site had those same words. So here is the song and here are the definitions of the lyrics.

Its a powerful song for women, very much in relation to the post i just posted “Desired Fruit”

I love how Freemasons take songs and remix them, they do a great job at it.

enjoy 🙂

Definitions of words in lyrics
1-Stoic: One who is seemingly indifferent to or unaffected by joy, grief, pleasure, or pain
2-Heartening: To give strength, courage, or hope to; encourage

3-Slight: disregard, neglect, overlook mean to pay no attention or too little attention to

Like anyone would be
I am flattered by your fascination with me
And like any hot-blooded woman
I have simply wanted an object to crave
But you, you’re not allowed
You’re uninvited
An unfortunate slight

Must be strangely exciting
To watch the stoic squirm
Must be somewhat heartening

To watch a burning shepherd
But you you’re not allowed
You’re uninvited
An unfortunate slight

Like any uncharted territory
I must seem greatly intriguing
You speak of my love like
You have experienced love like mine before
But this is not allowed
You’re uninvited
An unfortunate slight

I don’t think your unworthy
I need a moment to deliberate

Music-Innocente

Beautiful song, lovely voice and the words are  true in their meaning for those who have fallen in and then out of love.

Enjoy 🙂

Click this if you want it: Innocente

You can’t see my eyes
You can’t see my eyes
They don’t see yours
Hear me when I say
They don’t mind at all

It’s the rain that I hear coming
Not a stranger or a ghost
It’s the quiet of a storm approaching
That I fear the most
It’s the pain that I hear coming
The slightest crystal tear, drops to the ground In silence, when my love is near.


Darling, when did you fall? When was it over?
Darling when? When did you fall? When was it over?

It’s marching through my door now
The stony cold of lonesome
A bell tolls for my heart and then my lonesome song begins
It’s marching through my door now
The stony cold of lonesome
A bell tolls for my heart and now my lonesome song begins

Darling, when did you cry? I couldn’t hear you
Darling when? When did you cry? I couldn’t hear you
I suppose it is the price of falling in love
I suppose it is the price of falling in love

It’s the rain that I hear coming
Not a stranger, not a ghost
Of the quiet of a storm approaching
That i fear the most
It’s the pain that i hear coming

The slightest crystal tear drops to the ground
In silence when my love is near
It’s marching through my door now the stony cold of lonesome
A bell tolls for my heart and now my lonesome song will end

Darling when did we fall? When was it over?
Darling when? When did we fall? When was it over?
I suppose it is the price of falling in love.

I suppose it is the price of falling in love.

Music- Mad Love Anees

I have a whole entire story to tell you about this new artist. This will come in time, as for now all you need to know is that Anees is an old friend from back when i used to live in Montreal. He was like my male protector and mentor and we both loved and cherished George Michael, we also loved to dance with such passion. After Montreal we lost touch with one another. Eleven years later i went out to a club in Dubai, and low and behold i bump into Anees and its as though not a single minute had passed, everything was exactly the same.

I am very proud to say that he has just finished his first album which is being sold in Virgin records and he also made a video clip that is very impressive. So i HAVE to share this with you cause i am very proud of all what he has done so far with his life.

Truly Enjoy 🙂

Music- This is my life

I decided to share a cheerful song for today. For some reason i have not heard this song in any of the night clubs here??!!!!! Although it really needs to be.

Enjoy 🙂

Click here if you want it:This Is My Life

I’m dreaming, I’m dreaming out loud
I’m searching the missing part of my heart
Uuuuu uuuu uuuu,you catch me every time i fall
When i look into your eyes
I just know you tell me lies

 This,this is my life I’m looking for you searching love in your eyes
This, this my life I’m chasing a dream that fade away in the night

Can you get to my soul,
I’ll make you lose the control,
I’ll be your sun in the night

Just come here inside
I’m playing with you
I’m falling for you
When i look into your eyes
I just know you tell me lies

This,this is my life I’m looking for you searching love in your eyes
This, this my life I’m chasing a dream that fade away in the night

I can’t follow dreams forever
Just to see them fall apart
We can change the world if we are together
Cuz i know i won’t let it go
When i look into your eyes
I just know you tell me lies

This,this is my life I’m looking for you searching love in your eyes
This, this my life I’m chasing a dream that fade away in the night
I start to miss your smile,your voice is all i hear
I’m chasing hollow eyes,show me I’m wrong tonight
This,this is my life I’m looking for you searching love in your eyes
This, this my life I’m chasing a dream that fade away in the nïght

 

I’m dreaming your love
… part of my heart
…..

This, this is my life
I’m looking for the you
…. in your eyes

Can i’m looking in your eyes

This, this is my life
I’m looking for the you
…. ïn your eyes

Music-Come along remix

One of the most freeing songs…..it empowers me to venture into a world of freedom making it easy to follow and become one with it. ALl the words of the song are simple, as simple as it is making freedom of life to be.

I hope this gives you the same breathing space it offers me when i am in need to let go of my thoughts and follow my hearts desire, because time flies make a statement take a chance…..time flies take your chance.

Enjoy 🙂

Play with it while you have hands
Dust settles, cities turn to sand
Trespassing this is their land
Time flies, make a statement, take a stand

Come along now, come along with me
Come along now, come along and you’ll see
What it’s like to be free
Come along now, come along with me
Come along now, come along and you’ll see
What it’s like to be free

Come along now, come along with me
And I’ll ease your pain
Come along, come along with me
And lets seize this day
Come along, come along with me

Stay out stay clear but stay close
Friends, foes, God only knows
Lets be the thorn on the rose
Time flies, make a statement, strike a pose

Come along now, come along with me
Come along now, come along and you’ll see
What it’s like to be free
Come along, come along with me
Come along now, come along and you’ll see
What it’s like to be free

Come along now, come along with me
And I’ll ease your pain
Come along, come along with me
And lets seize this day
Oh, come along with me

Time flies, make a statement, take a stand
Time flies, make a statement, take a stand
Time flies, make a statement, take a stand
Time flies, take your chance

Come along now, come along with me
Come along now, come along and you’ll see
What it’s like to be free

Come along now, come along with me
And I’ll ease your pain
Come along, come along with me
And lets seize this day
Oh, come along with me